01 · The experience
Care is present. The load is uneven.
Luis describes doing pickups and cooking. Hana values that care, and still watches for daycare changes, prepares the bag and makes sure there is a backup.
THE COUPLES MAP · AT YOUR OWN PACE
More understanding
for the life you share.
A human-prepared reading of your relationship, for the season you are in. Each of you reflects privately; a Director connects the accounts into a developed reading of what supports you, what has changed, and what may be worth tending next.
Use it at home, over dinner or on a walk. Begin with a conversation about what you would like to understand; timing is agreed before either person starts. You can add a wine-country day if you want a setting away from home.
Talk about a couples readingInterested in a setting away from home? Explore the optional wine-country day. At the turn of the year? The Year Ahead Map.
WHAT A READING CAN MAKE CLEARER
An ordinary difficulty can hold a more useful question.
The Map follows your relationship in its current circumstances. A Director brings your separate accounts into a reading you can question and correct: what each person is carrying, where your experiences differ and what you might choose to do next. What makes this a different kind of reading.
An illustrative reading
When helping still leaves one person holding the plan.
02 · What becomes clearer
A task can move. Its responsibility can stay behind.
Their accounts suggest that Hana is still carrying the planning around this routine. Asking for more help leaves her deciding what to ask for. A whole responsibility could be handed over instead.
03 · A choice to consider
Give the handover a beginning and an end.
They could try two weeks in which Luis owns the notices, bag, pickup and backup on two agreed days. They would work through a changed-shift day first, then decide whether the arrangement fits.
Something worth protecting: the Sunday music and unhurried walks where they already find ease. The reading makes room for those, too.
Fictional example: Hana and Luis consider a possible handover together.
THE MAP, ON ITS OWN
Bring the practice
to your own table.
The Map is a prepared reading for your own time together. Read it at home, take a question on a walk or make space for a conversation over dinner.
Begin with the private questionnaire. The reading can help you see what already supports you, name a difference and choose what deserves attention now. You can begin without a book or workbook.
$195 for two people.
Add $45 for each additional participant. Friends and Long Table groups are welcome; larger group scope is confirmed before you begin.
For couples, each person receives a private Folio—a reading of their own reflections—and you both receive a shared Map after review and approval.
Ask about a relational MapA PRIVATE REFLECTION, THEN A SHARED READING
Each person’s words.
A reading you can consider together.
Reflect privately
Start with your own account of the relationship. Choose which answers are for your private Folio, for consideration in the shared Map or for the human Director only.
Review before sharing
Read your own Folio and check the contribution you want considered for the Map. Both of you give permission before either sees the shared draft.
Choose what fits
Each of you approves the exact final Map before it is released to you both. Use it to protect what works, consider a practical change or choose a small practice for the weeks ahead.
YOUR WORDS, YOUR CHOICES
Know what stays private.
You choose what can enter the shared reading. If AI assistance is offered, that has its own permission; a human-only route remains available.
AN OPTIONAL SETTING · MAP + WINE-COUNTRY DAY
Your people.
Your pace.
One clear price.
Includes the Relational Map, winery scheduling and a six-hour private vehicle with driver. Your conversation is self-guided.
Tasting fees are paid separately. Standard parties are up to eight in one vehicle. Inquire for larger groups.
| Your party | Included Map | Total |
|---|---|---|
| Two people | $195 | $1,395 |
| Four people | $285 | $1,485 |
| Six people | $375 | $1,575 |
| Eight people | $465 | $1,665 |
We confirm availability, pickup, route, timing, meals, gratuity terms and any extra costs in your written proposal. Inquire for three, five or seven participants.
Ask about the Map and dayA FEW GOOD QUESTIONS
Before you begin.
Do we need to buy or complete a workbook?
No. A standalone reading begins with the private questionnaire. You do not need to buy a book or complete a workbook to receive it.
Is this a guided conversation or therapy?
No. This is a self-guided reflection, not therapy or a Director-facilitated session. For a high-stakes or sensitive gathering, ask about a Personal Council or Field Discovery.
Does “self-guided” mean we drive ourselves?
No. The optional wine-country package includes a private vehicle and driver for six hours. Self-guided refers to your conversation, which has no Director facilitating it.
What if someone does not want to share?
They can skip an answer, keep it for their own Folio or reserve it for the human Director only. Each person controls that choice, including when someone else is paying. The shared reading uses only material offered for shared consideration. See Privacy & care for the full sharing and review process.
What happens after the Map?
You can return to your existing Map at the date or event you choose. A later Map using new reflections requires fresh choices about those answers. A paid Return Map is not required to revisit what you have already received.
Can we book instantly?
Not at this stage. Inquire first so we can confirm scope, preparation timing, and—if you are considering the optional day—vehicle and winery availability. No payment is taken by this form.
THE BOOK FOR COUPLES
The Couples Workbook.
FOR COUPLES · PUBLICATION · OCTOBER 27, 2026
The Third Field Couples Workbook
The life you share keeps changing. Make room to change with it. Begin privately, share only what you choose, and try one small change together.
Included with the Union Covenant and guided Couples Councils.
Try selected exercisesThe Map needs no book. For guided Couples work, the workbook is included: the Director chooses exercises from your private questionnaire, and the book stays with you for the seasons after. All books and essays