TERROIR TRAILSA Third Field practice
PERSONAL · A THIRD FIELD PRACTICE
For the friends who became family. A Director-led gathering to reconnect, recognize what your friendship has carried and make room for who you are now.
Ask about your gatheringTIME FOR THE FRIENDSHIP ITSELF
We have rituals for marriage, graduation, death, and promotion. We have almost no rituals for the friendships that carried us through all of them.
History is not the same as presence. The Long Table makes room to remember what you share and meet the people you are now.
Read “The Friendships That Carried Us”The Director shapes the conversation around your group. Take these invitations in your own direction, or pass when you prefer.
Which shared moment still says something important about this friendship—and what did each of you experience differently?
What familiar roles, if any, still fit you—and what part of who you are now would you like the others to meet?
What ordinary act of care has mattered to you that you have never fully named? Offer gratitude or good wishes in your own words; no faith or formal ceremony is required.
What would staying close look like in the lives you have now, without asking anyone to promise more than they can give?
Perhaps one appreciation finally spoken, or a small way of making room for each other. You choose what to carry into the friendship after the day.
The Long Table is a private gathering for friends, prepared and guided by a Director. Your individual reflections help shape the focus: what you remember, what has changed and what you would like to make room for now.
Personal Councils gather up to eight, and start at $3,200 for up to four guests and $6,800 for 6–8. Other sizes are quoted individually, and larger groups are arranged by proposal.
The Circle of Friends Workbook is included with friendship Councils. Your proposal confirms the selected practice material for your gathering, including any optional pages to return to afterward, alongside preparation, live support and hospitality arrangements.
Explore the experienceChoose a Director-led Council for a guided gathering, or a Relational Map with prompts to explore in your own time. We can help you find the right starting point.
Compare all experiencesA FEW GOOD QUESTIONS
A remembered moment, an unspoken thank-you, a role someone would like to change, or a small way to care for the friendship now. Your reflections help the Director find the conversations that matter to this group.
No. You can pass, set a boundary or keep a reflection private. The Director works with what each person chooses to bring.
The Long Table includes a Director who prepares and guides your gathering. A Relational Map provides a reviewed shared reading and conversation prompts for your own time together, without live facilitation. Your proposal confirms which format and materials you have chosen.
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FOR THE LONG TABLE
FOR FRIENDS AND CHOSEN FAMILY · PUBLICATION · OCTOBER 31, 2026
For the friendships that carried you. Remember what you share, recognize what each person has given, and make room for who you are now.
Included with Director-led Long Table gatherings.
Meet the Long TableThe Circle of Friends Workbook is published on October 31. When a Long Table is Director-led, the book becomes part of the practice: your private questionnaire helps the Director choose the exercises for your day, and the book stays with you for the seasons after. All books and essays